By Javier Fiz Pérez –
Today’s new technologies are excellent, because they improve people’s lives. The problem arises from a harmful use of the internet—a negative use, to which the youngest people are most vulnerable, since they are in the midst of the process of forming their adult personality, and because for today’s adolescents, the virtual world is as real as physically face-to-face relationships.
The World Health Organization (WHO) says that one out of every four people suffers from behavior disorders tied to these new technologies.
Today’s communication technologies offer adolescents the possibility of losing themselves in a fantasy world to flee from the monotony of daily life. This creates a paradox: through social networks and the internet in general, adolescents don’t present themselves as they truly are; rather, they project an artificial image of themselves, which reflects low self-esteem.
The physical and psychological changes that adolescents experience make them more emotionally insecure. Consequently, at times adolescents may seek in technology the security that they can’t find in themselves.
The family environment also influences the habits that a child acquires and which manifest themselves during adolescence. In some cases, an addiction to technology may be caused by a pre-existing problem, which needs to be identified. For example, solitude and a lack of friends could lead a young person to take refuge in technology.
Towards the end of the 1980s and during the 1990s, a phenomenon appeared in Japan which became called “hikikomori.” This refers to the more than two million reported cases of adolescents who closed themselves up in their rooms and—among other things—only interacted through the internet. “Hikikomori” literally means “pulling inward, being confined.” It refers to a form of social isolation characterized by rejection of every initiative the purpose of which is to leave one’s room or residence.
Some symptoms of addiction
Many parents ask themselves if their children are addicted to the internet, and if this could lead to problems of various kinds. Here are the symptoms or warning signs that can help you to identify a possible internet addiction.
- The person ends up isolated from the family, closing in on himself because he constantly thinks about connecting to the internet whenever he has free time.
- The young person’s daily routine changes in such a way that everything takes second place with regards to his interest for the internet, which becomes the center of his life.
- The person’s character changes, becoming irritable and subject to abrupt mood swings. He shows less interest in social relationships, and acts absent and distant during group activities.
- He suffers from anxiety if he can’t connect to the internet, and he acts as if this were a tragedy. Also, someone with an internet addiction usually exhibits poor academic performance.
Some suggestions for what to do if your adolescent son or daughter is addicted to the internet:
- Put the computer in a shared area of the house, such as the living room. May parents make the mistake of putting it in their child’s room, in which case it is more difficult for them to know what their children are doing on the net and to help them manage the time the spend on the internet.
- Teach your children about how to use the internet constructively. Inform them about how important it is to protect their private lives and to avoid publishing personal photographs on social networks.
- Talk to your adolescent children about this situation so you can help them realize that something is wrong. Communication improves family relationships and the emotional health of family members.
- Initially, impose a schedule so that your children can learn to use the computer and the internet as a tool, in a balanced and rational way. The most effective way to do this is by stimulating your children with other kinds of activities so that they focus their minds on other interests. When you detect internet addiction, it’s important to act swiftly and effectively.
In the area of education, the best remedy is always prevention. It is highly recommendable that you stay close to your children right from the start so you can give them tips about how to use these new technologies properly.
Prof. Javier Fiz Pérez, Ph.D., is a Psychotherapist and Full Professor at the European University of Rome, where he collaborates as a Delegate for the International Scientific Development, being also the International Scientific Director of the European Institute of Positive Psychology (IEPP).
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